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Daughters in Islam -II

 

The fruit of raising daughters righteously is reward in this life before reward in the Hereafter; this is proved by the fact that Allaah سبحانه وتعالى Image:Allah.svg rewarded the righteous man who raised his two daughters virtuously, the result being Him facilitating the marriage of one of them to the honourable Prophet Moosaa  may  Allaah  exalt  his  mention.

The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam would express his love for his daughters by, for example, making statements like “(My daughter) Faatimah is a part of me, so whoever angers her angers me.” (Al-Bukhaari & Muslim)

Aa'ishah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her recounted that Faatimah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her once came walking in a manner identical to that of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam; When she arrived, he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) stood up and exclaimed: “Welcome, my daughter!” Then, he seated her to his side and whispered into her ear, and what he had said caused her to cry; then, he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) then whispered to her again, and she laughed. 'Aa'ishah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her later asked her: "What made you weep and then laugh?" She  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her replied: "I will never expose a secret that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) entrusted me with." After the death of the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) 'Aa'ishah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her asked her the same questions again, so she answered: "First, he informed me that his death was near, so I cried. After that, he told me that I will be the leader of the ladies of Paradise, so I laughed." (Al-Bukhaari & Muslim)

‘Aa'ishah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her said: “I have not seen anyone closer in physical appearance and character to the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) than his daughter Faatimah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her … Whenever she would enter into his presence, he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) would stand up and seat her in his place, and whenever he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) would enter into her presence, she would stand up, kiss him, and seat him in her place.”

This is how he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) cared for his daughters. Zaynab  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her who was another daughter of the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) sent for him due to her child being close to death, but the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) sent the messenger back to her, telling him to tell her: "Whatever Allaah takes away or gives, belongs to Him, and everything with Him has a limited fixed term (in this world); and she should therefore be patient and anticipate Allaah's reward.'' She sent for him again, pleading with him for the sake of Allaah to come. Therefore, the Messenger of Allaah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) went, accompanied by Sa`d bin `Ubaadah, Mu`aath bin Jabal, Ubayy bin Ka`b, Zayd bin Thaabit and others  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  them. The child was lifted up to the Messenger of Allaah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) while breathing heavily, in the last moments before his death. Upon seeing this, the eyes of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam streamed with tears as a result of compassion that Allaah had placed in his heart. Due to this, Allaah caused the boy to be cured, as Imaam Ibn Hajar  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him stated.

The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam would carry Umaamah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her during prayer whilst standing, and place her on the ground before prostrating. (Al-Bukhaari)

Once, Faatimah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her complained to him  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) about suffering due to strenuous housework, and that it was causing her hands to roughen and develop marks; he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) therefore taught her to mention Allaah before going to bed by uttering 'Subhaan-Allaah' (i.e., glory be to Allaah) and 'Al-Hamdulillaah' (i.e., all praise be to Allaah) thirty-three times each, and thirty-four times 'Allaahu Akbar' (i.e., Allaah is the Greatest); he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) told her that this would be better for her than the assistance of a servant.

Also, when the family of Abu Jahl requested ‘Ali  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him to marry their daughter, he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) refused and said: “Never will the daughter of the messenger of Allaah and the daughter of the enemy of Allaah be under (the guardianship of) one man. Faatimah is a part of me, and whoever saddens her has harmed me.” He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) later stood up and explained to the people that he was not making unlawful what Allaah made lawful, nor was he forbidding polygamy, but rather, he did what he did due to Faatimah being the daughter of a messenger, which is a special case, since no one is permitted to harm the Messenger  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ).

Faatimah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her was courageous and proud of Islam. In the incident when her father  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) was praying in front of the Ka’bah and the disbelievers placed the guts of a camel on his head whilst he was prostrating and then laughed and mocked him, it was she  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her who came, by herself, and screamed at the disbelievers and then removed the guts. (Muslim)

This is how the life of the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) was regarding dealing with his daughters, so let us make it a guideline by which we live.

Some people are truly hardhearted, to the point that they do not express any emotions toward their children. It is a disaster when a daughter is raised in such an emotional vacuum, because it is easy for any evil person to then affect her with his deceptive words and entice her into his trap, and this is how the calamity of fornication occurs. This is why we need to pay close attention to the issue of daughters and grant them their due consideration, especially when we live in an era where everything evil is available and within reach.

It is indeed a great responsibility to satiate the emotions of our daughters with the love they need from the hearts of their merciful fathers, lest evil men do this instead to achieve their vile objectives.

We must also give the same level of attention to our sons in this regard, because the problems we hear regarding our young men are due to the negligence of their parents. What is our role? It is, as Allaah says (what means): “O you who have believed! Protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allaah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.” [Quran 66: 6] We must soften their hearts with a warm smile whenever we see them, and speak to them with merciful words.

If we do not pay attention to this issue, a day will come when our communities will be just like the immoral and dissolute ones.

 
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